YM returns

Last year I broke up with Young Man (YM) because, well, he was too young! He is very immature and needed to do some growing. I told him I'd still be friends but he passed up that offer. I was pretty sure at the time he was interested in another girl and that is why he was acting the way he was and pretty much ran as soon as I told him things didn't seem to be working out.

A few months ago (mid-March) he contacted me with the following email:

Hi myname,
My name is (insert his first AND last name here). I'm not sure if you remember me, but we dated last year. When our relationship ended you said that you wanted to maintain our friendship, and stated that I could contact you if I needed anything.
If you would prefer me to not contact you, it's no problem at all. Please let me know in a clear manner that you would like me not to contact you anymore and I won't ever contact you again.
With that being said, I was wondering if you would mind if I attended the church you brought me to when we were dating? I'd like to start going back to church, and that's the only one I know of in the area. If you would feel uncomfortable with that, or if it would cause any issues for you, it's no problem, I'll try to find another one. I didn't want to just show up there one day without checking with you first in case it would cause any problems.
Best Regards,
first name

I found it quite hilarious. And I responded as such:

Hi YM,
You crack me up. Of course I remember you. For heaven's sake, I slept with you. Not like many guys out there get that privilege. LOL.
I meant it when I said I would maintain our friendship and you could contact me. I don't say things I don't mean. But since we've both experienced people treating us unjustly and dishonorably, I understand your hesitation.
Of course you are welcome to attend my church. (insert details about church). So if you'd like me to introduce you around, I can do that. Or, if you'd rather just remain anonymous for a bit, I understand that as well.
Take care,
my name


And so the friendship began. He came to church and would email me every so often. He started inviting me to his motorcycle group meeting (the social hour after riding) - especially after he found out I got my motorcycle license but not a bike yet. He's emailed me various things that are going on about town and such.

I'm not positive he is interested in me more than a friend, but I'm not positive he's not, either. It's never easy for me to read people and perhaps, he's just lonely and let's face it, I'm a nice person. I rarely tell anyone to take a hike.

So this weekend was his birthday. And, on Friday I told him if he had no plans, we should do something special. I mentioned a couple of things, including hiking. So, that's what we did on Saturday. The world's greatest puppy loved it. We could have gone twice as far, I think, and she would have still had energy. But, with a bum foot, I felt like we went too far. After we got some subs, that he wouldn't let me pay for (I had planned to because it was his birthday). Then we came back to my place and chatted (I iced my then aching foot).

He made no moves on me and had to leave after a bit because he was meeting his buddies out for a birthday celebration. So in all, it seemed quite platonic.

My Boo came home in the middle of things. She later asked me what was up. I told her we were hanging as friends and she said it rarely works. I told her how me and my ex that she adores still hang out and she said, "that's because he is cool!" She really cracks me up!

I know she is young and has trouble with such things. But then again, she is pretty astute. So, we'll see how it goes. I really have no feelings left for YM. He seems like he was a lifetime ago...especially compared to PJ. It always comes back to him and I fear always will. No one can measure up. The bastard!

Any way, life is at least somewhat interesting, if nothing more. Time to make the donuts.