Optimism or Insanity?

I started online dating again. I know, I know – how many times have I sworn it off?! I figured it was time to give it another shot because so many of my friends seem to meet people online. Since I was changing up my life at work, I thought, why not change up personal life. Well, that was mistake number one! I shouldn’t have tried to learn a new job and online date at the same time! It is so exhausting to keep up with the emails, etc. This new site is great, though. I’m not sure what changed since the last time I was online, but there are a plethora of men in my age range that are intelligent and good looking. Whoda thunk?

Any way, so, I’m trying to work 9-10 hours a day and then do the online dating thing, including the dates. I was thinking, if all else goes wrong, this will be at least entertaining from a blog point of view. But alas, between work and dating, I have no time to write. I know…horribly depressing, isn’t it?!

I do have to share some of the more recent funny things, though.

First email was from a 26 year old boy who wrote that while I knew he was outside of my age range, he just wanted to tell me I was gorgeous. I responded with thank you and I thought he was cute. Yep, I’m full of mistakes these days. He eventually propositioned me with FWB. I thought about it – he was THAT cute! But alas, I had to turn him down. LOL.

Then I receive one that states, “Good Evening Ms., You sure do something for a man's imagination... and some! Whew...” So how is one to respond to that? “why thank you. So glad to have obliged.” (in my deepest southern accent). Seriously. Dude, this is why no one writes back to you! I did NOT make a mistake here!

Then there is Gman. He initially writes saying how he wants to develop a friendship and maybe cultivate it itnot something more, blah, blah, blah. So I write back and this goes on. He gives me his number and because I was leaving on a Friday night with no intention on logging on over the weekend, I pass on my number …mistake! He calls. I was driving; I didn’t answer. He doesn’t leave a message. He calls again but this time not from the number he gave me. I didn’t recognize it and didn’t answer. No message. Finally he calls from that same unrecognizable number and leaves a message. But the message is somewhat preachy about me not getting back to him. So, of course, I don’t call him back. He then leaves me a message on the website telling me he is trying to reach me. Now when I sent him the email on Friday, I told him that I wouldn’t be online all weekend. So Monday rolls around and what do I get but another email from him complaining I never called him back or answered his email. I explained that I hadn’t gotten a message from him until late in the weekend and that I wasn’t online (per the Friday email). He was a little bit bitchy but seemed to be okay. Then on Tuesday, he started harassing me again. So on Wednesday, I wrote and told him I was no longer interested in communicating with him. I wished him the best.

He wrote back in a separate email, “oh good. That means you’ll call.” I thought it was really odd and his way of continuing to pressure me to talk. I ignored it.

But, I think I forgot to proofread my first email because this is what I got today: “It is obvious that you do not have any interest in me. You do not write unless I write to you first. You give me your phone number and never return my calls. So with that I must say good luck in your search because I will not be put up on a shelf until your ready to play with me. I am so much better then that and you unfortunately will never know. I am not mad at you, just tired of you playing games, Some advice, next time you give your number to someone, make sure that you have you make time to talk to him and not make excuses.”

I wrote back: “I'm sorry that you missed the last email that I sent yesterday. I thought I had made it clear that I was no longer interested in communicating with you. Best Wishes.”   Now I wrote this because I didn’t understand that after my communication with him, why he thought I was still interested.

He wrote: “I did not miss it, you said you wanted to communicate with me. But if it makes you feel better, then you denied me. Whatever.”

So very mature, don't you think? Now if I had any inclination to actually keep communicating with this idiot, that email would have ended it. Really, I would have felt the need to write what I did just to make myself feel better? I actually thought it would have made him feel better that I wasn’t playing games because I had told him I wasn’t interested. But it didn’t.

So, like a dummy, I write one more email: “Ooops. bad typo. I wasn't trying to say I denied you just trying to clarify that I thought it was resolved. “

Funniest thing is he changed his profile to read: “If you are into playing games, please do not contact me. I will not be put up on a shelf until your ready to play with me. I am so much better then that.”

What a funny, immature, bitter man. I hope I don’t run across to many more of them.  And, by the way, he contacted me first!  LOL.

BTW, I have been corresponding with a couple of very nice men. Yes, I just gave them all the kiss of “nice”. Actually there is a hopeful in the group but I refuse to talk about and jinx it! It would be nice not to have to say, “next,” though.