Teaching pigs to sing...

So, I gave up on my most recent relationship. Just wasn't working for me. I'm thinking I'm going to end up as a serial monogomist. Ha ta da, dee ha! Any way, the next stuff written isn't original, can't even give credit where it is due but is very applicable to my life....



Never try and teach a pig to sing, it wastes time and annoys the pig.

"Turd polishing” in a love relationship is very much similar to “teaching a pig to sing.” Many of us are easy to be trapped in a troubled relationship because we would like to believe that we have power to polish a turd. We can reform the person, we can change them towards the way we like, and we can make them better - the process of polishing turd sounds very exciting and promising but we fail to realize that turd polishing is usually a waste of time and energy. Why don’t you spend the same time and energy to polish a diamond instead?

When people realize the man or woman is not what they’re looking for, as the relationship is getting more and more serious, many of us usually are not willing to break off the relationship with that person. We would rather choose to stay and wishfully think that a miracle will somehow come along - the problems could get fixed automatically. Someday when we wake up, all of sudden the turd will be a diamond.

This is not to suggest that you simply give up the relationship when there is a difficult or challenge. You should always try to get the troubled relationship fixed or improved before break off the relationship, but you must understand whether or not it could be fixed or improved in the first place. What usually happen is that if a person is hard to change now, there is a slight chance he or she will be able to change in the future.

Change only comes from within. Don’t delude yourself that people would be easy to change by your hard work. You either change yourself, which is usually the fastest way to fit with that person, or leave that person, which is usually the easiest way to make yourself happier in this case. In general, there is no other way around.

You can’t polish a turd, whatever you try. What you can do is to flush the toilet, hoping the turd doesn’t clog it. And then start looking for a diamond. Don’t be sorry for others when you choose to break up, because you’re giving a chance to both people for a better future. You should be sorry for your choice when staying in a relationship that you’re not happy with.

So, this little essay, makes me feel better about myself. I identified a bad relationship and ended it. Right? It's over and I'm free to find that there diamond. Of course I'm not supposed to feel like a turd, but I do. Not sure why...wondering what am I really supposed to be doing these days. Don't feel like looking for a diamond, but don't feel like doing without, either. And the stinking holidays are right around the corner...eee gads!

Anyone got a pig they want to teach to sing. That sounds like so much more fun!