Ever more

So I've heard nothing from PJ since Easter and being the fairly intelligent individual that I am, I've realized that this is the way he wants it. So rather than drag this out any further, I've given up on him. I haven't bothered to text, call or email him. And, I don't plan on it. And, I've gone one step further. I decided to go ahead and spend time investigating the guys waiting to date me.

Of course, dating is as frustrating as a skunk is stinky, but I figure it can be entertaining. there is the one guy, who "picked me up" online. I belong to a photography club and he just started emailing me about photography and stuff. Then, every time he saw me online, he'd start IMing me. I actually started making myself invisible because the chats were tedious and I didn't see it going any where. Well, Tuesday late afternoon, I went visible to taunt a former boyfriend (that is an entertaining story in itself) and bing, an IM came in from Photoboy (PB). Sometimes I ignore him but this time I said hi. We chatted for a bit and he asked me to have dinner/drinks with him on Thursday. I agreed. I gave him my cell number and told him to call early in the day on Thursday to confirm the time and place. Well, come 4:30 he hadn't called, so I left work and headed home. I wasn't about to wait around to hear from him. About 10 minutes later, he called but since I was already headed home and we were supposed to meet on my work side of town, we postponed....until today.

It was a convoluted plan to start. We were meeting in area where we both had to be...me for volleyball and him to meet his friends. Neither of us knew the area well and it was a haul from both of our houses. So, when I called him to confirm, he asked me what was up. Gosh I hate a man who can't take control and plan things. I asked him if he knew the area and he said no. I told him I didn't either but knew of a Dunkin Donuts (we were planning on coffee) in the area. That did not seem to please him, so he said he'd check out some options. I had told him where I was playing vball and expected him to pick a spot nearby.

So he calls me back, as I'm fighting rush hour traffic home. He suggests a mall in the general area. I ask him how far it is from the high school I was to play volleyball. He hadn't checked. UGH! Really, are you that inconsiderate too? So when I get home, not only do I have to change and get my stuff together for the game, I also have to look up this random location and figure out how far it is from where I need to be. I was stuck in traffic for a long time, so I called to let him know I wasn't home yet but thought perhaps we wouldn't have much time to hang out. He said if the spot he picked was too far away from where i needed to be, I could just pick another spot and he'd meet me there. Sigh...so why was the Dunkin Donuts out?!

I got home, looked up a place 3 minutes from the high school and called him. He was fine with meeting me there and said he'd see me in a half hour? WTF?! I had told him I lived at least 40 minutes away....so not only can't he plan, he can't listen, either. I really wanted to bail but repeated it'd probably take me 45 minutes to get there. He said, "no worries, you get here when you get here."

Oh, did I mention he mumbles, too. I HATE absolutely positively HATE talking on the phone to start with. And, the number one reason I hate it is because I can hardly understand people on the phone. I hate when they use the stupid speaker phone or blue tooth and they get fuzzy. I just want to hang up. It's bad enough I have to be on the phone having a conversation, but then to constantly have to ask the other person "what?" UGH! My biggest pet peeve EVER!!!! Any way, I constantly had to say, "what?" to PB. I was really dreading meeting him. But figured he was probably good looking because there was no way a person who was so lame in so many other ways could operate the way he did without being good looking.

Anyway, he gets there first and texts me that he is there. Within five minutes, I pulled up and told him I was there as well. Then he called my phone so there wouldn't be this awkward looking for each other....he got a couple of points to make up for all his demerits! He actually hugged me, points for that too. Like I suspected, he was quite good looking and he smelled good. And, like I had thought, he really is a laid back guy expecting the other person to do all the work....although he was a decent conversationalist. And, he made a joke about the crumbs on the table, that I thought was funny. He kept staring at my face...I get this sometimes and it is obvious to me the guy thinks I'm pretty. It seemed that way to me, but it could have been something else. If it was that, he did a good job of somewhat concealing it.

We could only hang out for a little more than a half hour and the time flew by. He walked me to my car and hugged me goodbye (more merits). He suggested we get together again, but I won't hold my breath. I've heard those words before. Guys are so full of shit...I don't know why they just don't say "take care, bye bye". Instead of "let's do this again" when they know full well they don't have any intention of doing it again! Any way, he was cute, fairly polite and intelligent, but definitely not anything to write home about or get excited over. But, if he wants to "do something more formal" (his exact words) next time, I'll go. Maybe he'll grow on me. But more likely than not, his passive attitude and youth (not sure how old he is...definitely not the youngest I dated, but still a bit younger than me) will grow wearisome.

Any way, since I decided to let men start entertaining me, I guess I'll be entertaining you with the aggravation, amusement and graphic details of my ever so exciting dating (again) life. Well, at least until I grow bored of the men who come calling.

Until then, try not to kiss too many frogs...you might like it and end up with a household of tadpoles.