Betrayed

I've been betrayed, yet again.  I wish I could say that I am absolutely shocked this time but I'm not the least bit surprised.   I'm not sure how I attract such people to me, but I need to understand it and do a better job of not letting this happen in the future. 

I've written about Mainer before.  He and I hung out quite a bit.  I was there for him before he met his last girlfriend.  Then when he got together with her, he ignored me (and all his friends).   When she dumped him, he came crying back to me.  Of course, I welcomed him and consoled him.  I spent many hours listening to him complain about all the injustices she had done to him.  I was there for him.  I invited him out to play with my trivia team to give him something to do.  I always answered his calls and texts.  Then he started dating his current girlfriend and he disappeared again.  No surprise there.  But what he did to the trivia team - a group of people who welcomed him with open arms and were there for him made me realize what a selfish douchebag he really is.  I knew he was self absorbed but still gave him a shoulder to cry on.  But I never thought he'd treat the team the way he did and then justify his behavior.  I feel like a big jerk for caring for him and an even bigger one for introducing him to the team.  Most of the members have let it slide off their back. X is pissed off.  Like me, he is a competitor and has a sense of "team" from a sports point of view.  He believes you shouldn't treat your teammates in such a way.  And, he has a sense of loyalty toward his friends and thinks you shouldn't treat your friends that way.  He and I have talked for hours about it.  He is just as hurt as I am.  I know the Spiritual Adviser (aka Preacher) is right when she says, "It is for the best. And, the drama that we didn't need is now gone."  But I still can't help but feel hurt and betrayed.  Mainer is no friend of mine.   I will no longer give him the time of day.  He is DTM.