No Big Hurry

It’s weird how these things work out. I had the date on Friday evening. Did I mention it before…not the one with SF, but a different one. He’s a real nice guy who I might have said, “I know will treat me nice." Any way, we met shortly after work on Friday. I parked my car and we drove to the destination restaurant. He asked me if I could navigate and if I minded doing it. Doh, I have amazing spacial relations, so yeah, I navigated. The restaurant was on the water and it was a lovely evening. We chatted the whole ride over and before we went in. We were early for our reservation due to a couple of circumstance that made us start the date earlier than originally planned. But, ended up getting a table any way. I wanted outside but he had said one by the window. It was warm enough to be outside and he asked if I’d rather be outside and I said the window would be fine. I would have rather been outside, but didn’t care; the window worked too.

We were in no hurry all evening. We waited to order dinner til after some drink time and sat leisurely after dinner and chatted. We chatted when we got back to my car. I was in no hurry to leave. But, I’m in no hurry to see him again. Hmmmmmm….

Things I noticed…
- He can be more “abrupt” than I remember. There is a lot to be said with the way people talk to wait staff and I think he could have been gentler in things he said/asked. He wasn’t rude or impolite, just “abrupt”.
- He would interrupt me before I finished a thought. Not in the ADD way the last whiny bitch I dated would but with reference to what I was saying. He was actually following my thought and had some of his own to add. I like that he listened but would rather I get to finish my long rambling thoughts.
- He seems to be a genuinely honest and straightforward person.
- He isn’t as compassionate as I would like. When I told him about my friend who lied to me and hurt me and how I hadn’t decided how to handle the situation, he made some intelligent remarks about maintaining relationships that you’ve had for awhile. But he did go on to say it sounded very high school. That remark was hurtful because yeah, I think my friend did act very high school and it is why I’m perplexed about it. Maybe he wasn’t referencing my behavior but I took it like that. He didn’t seem to understand my plight. I tried out same scenario on one of my guy friends and they understood…so it isn’t a “dumb male” thing.

So, I’m not sure I really want to continue to see him. I did make first contact after a couple of years of none. No I wasn’t committing Tom Foolery, but I am pretty sure he was interested in me back then. He seems to remember everything differently…thinking I was interested in and pursued him…as if?! Please, I didn't pursue any men back then! Maybe his false memory is another reason I’m in no big hurry to see him again.