Dating

So while I try to get Closure with PJ and had a wonderful time with My Date, I am still online dating. In part because I met some of the guys prior to to meeting (wow I haven't given him a nickname yet...hmmmm, wonder what that means) MyDate, but in part because I'm a bit unsure of where things are headed with him. I want to have a place to fall to if it doesn't work out.

Any way, as a result, I went on a date with a man I met online earlier this week. Now this guy pursued me. He contacted me first, called me first and pushed for the date as soon as possible. I am fine with such behavior because long online "courting" is a bit boring in my opinion. but, this man was 17 years my senior. That's at least 5 years older than I stated in my profile and more than 10 years older than I am really interested. I like younger, fit men. I'm not looking for a sugar daddy closer to my Dad's age than mine. But, since he seemed nice and intersesting, I figured I'd go.

He called the day we were supposed to meet but my phone happened to be still sitting in my car. He had wanted to know what I was going to wear....who does that? Really? I mean, my girlfriends do that and perhaps he wasn't sure of the dress code at this joint, but he picked it out. Not me! Just because I had been there before didn't mean I knew such details. And, really, it was a first date of "a drink". Why would I be considering dressing up? If you are so concerned, call the place and ask....oh wait, he had called ahead of time to be sure they were open. You telling me he couldn't have asked then. Any way, I wasn't there to field the call, so I called him when I was on my way. He was on his way, too.

I got there a bit early but ended up messing with my phone/email for a bit. He sent me a text to tell me he was there and had a table in the bar. As soon as I walked in, I saw a look on his face as if he were not impressed. I was thinking...I'm 17 years younger than you, look at least 25 years younger than you, am in great shape and I'm pretty. I look like the damn pictures I posted. How dare you have that look in your eyes. Plus, you look older and fatter than your pictures. I just hoped my assessment of his reaction was a mistake. But never-the-less, strike one.

The conversation was a bit boring. He "interviewed" me rather than conversed. I didn't like it. His adventures turned out to really only be one. He hadn't done quite as much as I would have suspected from his profile. He didn't make eye contact the way most people do/should. He reminded me of one of these guys who had just gotten out of a long term relationship, who is desparate for some hot female attention so as to validate his manhood. In general, he was not all that interesting of a date. Strike two.

When the waiter came back, he jumped at the chance to leave. So, I was pretty sure my first assessment was correct. At least he paid the tab - which if I recall, I made no attempt to contribute to. (Hey, he already had two strikes and had wasted a few hours of my life.) We left and when we got to the edge of the sidewalk, he said, "nice to meet you." He didn't even ask where my vehicle was parked. As it turned out, I was right next to him. Seriously loser, you are how old and you haven't learned to walk a lady to her car? OMG! What an uncouth idiot! Strike 3! (would have been 1,2,3 if he hadn't already gotten the first two!)

I really hadn't been all that interested in this guy. I really like my cute brainiac (yeah, I think that is what I'll name him). So, in general, the whole thing wasn't all that bothersome. But still, people just amaze me at how rude they can be.

After that date, I thought it would be helpful to write a blog for men for online dating. Rules and such. Of course, the idiots who needed the advice wouldn't bother to read it, I'm sure.