Never understand guys part 2

So I said I'd tell you about X.  As it turns out several months ago, when I was dating MKP, a couple of the girls made a comment to X.   MKP and I were at a party along with X.  X and I were having our usual banter back and forth.  The girls noticed that MKP seemed uncomfortable and said something to X.  X ended up avoiding me for the rest of the party.  He also withdrew from our friendship.  I may or may not have noticed it.  I can't say.  All I know is that trivia started to not be as much fun for me.  I started to avoid weeks when X was there (he can only go every other week).  And, we drew further and further apart. 

Last Monday, I was feeling particularly touchy about the way X continuously picked on me along with the Preacher.  Then I got called out on supposedly being mean to someone else.  So I decided to quit trivia.  I texted the preacher and she seemed fine with it.  Then, I texted X.  He was a bit concerned.  He ended up calling me about it.  We chatted for a pretty long time.  We came to the conclusion that we totally missed each other.  I told him I thought I had lost my friend and he told me he felt like he was waiting for his friend to return.  It felt good to understand what was going on between us.

I noticed there are times when I just get upset with people but can't put my finger on what is agitating me.  I guess I felt the withdrawal from X and then just felt hurt by it.  And, instead of taking time to understand the hurt and talk about it, I pulled away from him.  He never told me he was pulling away because I was dating someone and when he noticed me pulling away, he pulled away more.  Quite the vicious circle.

I told him he never had to pull away from me for the sake of a BF again.  That if I'm dating someone and they have an issue with his and my friendship, it is their issue, not his.  That I would resolve it.  That he didn't need to listen to other people.  But if he did get to the point where he felt he needed to withdraw to please talk to me about it.  I don't ever want to have our friendship take a hiatus like that again. 

Good news is I think Cabana boy has no issues with my male friends and tendency to flirt.  I was flirting a lot at the old west party and he never said anything or seemed upset by it. And, last night, we were talking about the QB for the 49'ers and how he is my secret BF....so secret even he doesn't know.  When he came on for an interview, Cabana boy turned up the volume and let me watch.  Although, I told him over and over again to mute it.  That Colin sounded dumber and dumber by the minute and I was going to have to break up with him before he even found out he was my BF.   Cabana boy just laughed. 

I won't understand him but at least he seems okay with my flirtatious nature!!!